Counselling Services for teenagers. I provide specialist counselling for children and young people. This week is Children’s Mental Health Week and so there may be no better time for us to think about the mental health of our children than now.
On Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour last year we were advised that 65% of year six children say they are worried most of the time. This is clearly a worrying statistic. Let’s assume that it’s true while acknowledging that it would be easier, and tempting, for us to deny this figure because it makes us feel uneasy and powerless. Maybe if we deny this figure then we do so because the reality of the situation is worrying and makes us feel powerless.
For me, I can well believe this statistic is based on fact. For me this is just as much about the environment our young people inhabit making them feel anxious and worried as it is about the relationship they have with themselves and how they see themselves fitting into the world. Our children have busy lives today. Social, educational and familial expectations compete for their attention. Obviously the technology they are exposed to makes a young person’s life even more complex and busier as they manage relationships away from adult guidance and help.
Harmony starts at home but with the pressure parents feel to provide for their families, parents also can sometimes be so overwhelmed that they themselves are, as Jane Garvey put it in the woman’s hour presentation, “worried all the time.”
Deciding to invite a professional to help soothe your child (and maybe even your family) and teach them how to soothe themselves and relax in their world is a big step to take. It takes trust, commitment and a certain amount of insight to discern just who is exactly the right person to invite into the life of the people you love.
In the first instance counselling is about helping young people feel heard and understood and then it is about helping them find the resources within themselves to know when they are stressed and, when they are stressed, counselling seeks to enable them to know how to manage themselves into a better place.
Knowing how to manage stress in the right way is a key component in leading a healthy life and includes learning:
1, How to spot when you need help
2, How to ask for help in a timely way
3, How to ask for help in a way that enables you to be heard
4, How to use help effectively
And it doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes the right help might simply be being heard without judgement and without being told how to think and feel.
If you would like to find out more about my counselling services, please get in touch.