Why do mum’s still get the blame?

Why do mum’s still get the blame? Why, when it comes to it and our children are unmanageable in school or are suffering in hospital it is still mum who has to take the call from the Headteacher or is expected to sit by her child’s bedside waiting for the recovery of her child. Not that most mum’s, given the opportunity, would not need to do this for themselves and their child, however we still live in a world where dad’ presence is sought but not necessarily expected. Indeed, when it is not forthcoming, dad does not receive the same kind of disapproval as mum would if she were to absent herself for whatever reason.

Maybe it’s because we live in a fundamentally oppositional society where the media fights with itself to influence us to take one side or another, where politics is seen to be functioning most effectively if judgement and differences of opinion are clear and tribal. Where blame is part of the social narrative, where one day we are threatened by a migrant hoard and the next day governments are castigated for not doing enough to help migrant victims.

Whatever the reason, men and women are equally responsible for creating and raising balanced families. When carried out with love, care and attention, their different roles and functions create children who are best placed to optimise their chances of success in our unpredictable and sometimes dangerous world.

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