What can I do with the kids in the holidays?
I was told this story by a colleague many years ago. She told me how she used to live in Florida and worked for social services. She had an overworked manager, a man, who was always the first into the office and the last to leave. This man was worked to the bone and stressed out by his work. He seemed to find it tough to strike a work life balance, he frequently asked his colleagues, What can I do with the kids in the holidays?
Yet, he had pictures of his wife and children on his desk and he complained that his work did not allow him spend time enough time with them. He would tell colleagues how he would take his kids to the park and they would all have such a good time but he would always feel bad as they always asked for one more go on the roundabout or one more go on the swing. He was always too careworn and unfocused on the moment to be able to stay in the park for those few minutes more.
Then, as most always happens, his children grew up, left home to far off universities and made homes of their own in other towns and states.
Too late, he got focus when he retired and would have given anything for just a few of those minutes.
Use your holidays wisely and spend time making relationships with your children.
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