Sexual health counselling.

Sexual health counselling. In this blog I write about the sexually challenging world our young women are growing up in and how sexual health counselling and education does not only mean education about the physical aspects of sexual life but also education about the emotional and spiritual landscape our young people grow up in. 

This world is also challenging for young men too and requires suitable input but I do not believe that young men have the same potential for experiencing the very real physical dangers and have the same propensity for developing limiting self-beliefs as a result of these dangers as young women do.

The advertising standards watchdog have received an inordinate amount of complaints from members of the public about the advertising campaign Moneysupermarket carried out that involved men wearing stereotypically women’s clothes and dancing in a sexually provocative, female stereotypical, fashion.

I wonder if the men dancing were replaced by women, would there have been the same amount of complaints to the watchdog or have we been socialised into accepting sexual stereotypes.

In the advertisements we have all seen, the dancing is sexually provocative and aggressively submissive. If the dancers were female the choreography would send a clear message to other females, “I am sexually stronger than you” and a clear message to men, “You have to be an alpha male to be my sexual partner”. In every event, were the dancers women, the dancing would be intended to invite sexual attention from the right males and is intended to dissuade other females from competing.

The provocative and submissive movements I believe have caused the complaints because we usually see men portrayed as sexually dominant. In seeing men portrayed as sexually submissive people become confused and upset, it upsets their senses of order and because the matter relates to sex, it outrages them.

In short, I believe the people who make their complaints see the advertisements as unsavoury and worrying and it makes them feel unsafe. The atmosphere of challenge and overtly sexually competitive behaviour, competing for sexual attention, is acceptable for women but not in men.

So, if it’s not right for men to behave in this way, how can it be right for the women in our culture to be encouraged to behave like this way? Unless we challenge the way our mothers, wives, sisters and daughters are portrayed in the media we run the real risk of perpetuating the sexual objectification of women and the certainly that young men will view women not so much as equals but more as a commodity to comfort them sexually.

Over the years I have worked with young people I am saddened to say that I do not see these entrenched attitudes changing. Consequently, young women still fall into a sexually submissive role around young men and experience psychological and physical harm as a result.

If you would like to talk to me about how counselling can help you or someone you love then please get in touch with me by phone or email. I would be pleased to hear from you.