Rape counselling across The New Forest, Bournemouth and Poole

I met with a young person this week who spoke about how his female friend had told him she was raped last summer. HE was asking me about rape counselling and if I would see his friend.  He was sad, angry and confused that she did not want to inform the police and he was brimful of vengeance for her abuser.

We talked about the implications for a young woman speaking out about her attack, about police interviews and examinations and about how, after being assaulted in this most most vicious way, we might want privacy and peace and we would need those wishes to be accepted.

“Why her?” he asked and “Why did she tell me after all this time?”

The inevitability of his days at work, his time in the gym, his careful preparation for his adult life were set against the randomness and violence of his new knowledge.

Most likely he has experienced situations in his 19 years that may not be exactly the same as his friend’s but, in their own way, have informed him that ultimately we cannot keep ourselves safe from danger and ultimately death. We spoke about maybe it was his time to experience the full impact of that knowledge.

He spoke of how maybe something inside us dies when we know we are powerless against dangers, and how maybe it needs to be reborn each time we take a risk.

We looked at what his friend needs from him. We spoke about companionship and about showing her that he trusts her to know what is best for her without condoning her silence.

We looked at the qualities he must have for her to have shared her story with him.

We saw the privilege she had bestowed on him in sharing her pain.

He now understands why I do my job.

If you live Bournemouth, Poole or Dorset and stress, anxiety and depression is part of your life following a sexual assault, why not give me a call, send me a text or email me and we can arrange to meet, I have over 20 years’ counselling experience working with men an women who have been sexually abused.

Together we can make a difference.

And finally….

When I work this week in Bournemouth, Poole or Dorset as a counsellor, couple counsellor, teenage and adolescent counsellor, family counsellor, family therapist…


Family counselling and marriage guidance, marriage counselling, teenage counselling and adolescent counselling to individuals and couples with differing forms of anxiety and depression feeling anxious and depressed…

I may use CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Attachment Theory, Mindfulness, Psychodrama, Person Centred Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Solution Focused Therapy, Integrative Therapy or Family Therapy or Attachment Theory…

I am mindful to that counselling offers us new opportunities and possibilities for all of us to develop our knowledge, commitment and understanding of ourselves and each other.