When should I see a counsellor?

Some simple guidance about when we might decide to see a counsellor.

We come to realise that the methods we use to cope with situations, particularly those that pose a threat to us or our children, do not work.

How do I know if the way I handle things needs reviewing?

Listen to the language you use with yourself and others when you discuss matters close to your heart.

-Do you have impulses beyond your control that put your emotional life at risk?

-Do you lie or with-hold the truth to keep yourself safe?

-Are the words you use when you discuss matters with others shaming or emotionally biased in your favour?

-Are you fighting and seeking advantages in your discussions and is winning more important than getting clarity on matters?

-Do you feel anger when the point of view of those close to you is at variance with your own?

-If you tried to “look behind your anger” would you see fear? Fear that you may be over looked and your views ignored?

 If you have answered “yes” you might think about counselling. Depression and anxiety are closely linked to our emotional wellbeing.

You and your therapist can decide how much and how often you have therapy.

Finally, whatever intervention I offer in my work this week in Bournemouth, Poole or Dorset ( as a couple counsellor, with teenagers and adolescents and as a family therapist) be it, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Mindfulness, Psychodrama, Person Centered Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Solution Focused Therapy, Integrative Therapy or Family Therapy, I will be mindful that for me it is my work but for the people I meet we will be discussing their lives.