How do I decide which counsellor to choose?

When you contact a counsellor, (or any other therapist for that matter including psychologists and psychiatrists), and you agree to meet with them, you are not agreeing to them providing you with therapy. You are agreeing to meeting with them to see if you like them and to see if you feel they can help you.

Be discerning, ask about their areas of expertise, how long they have been practicing post qualification and you might ask what support they have in place to regularly support their work with you. I am certain you will agree, it is important for a therapist to regularly review the service they provide and that they  must seek to enhance their practice so the manner in which they practice today is significantly more sophisticated than the manner in which they practiced when they were newly qualified.

Remember that because someone has a qualification it does not necessarily mean that they are right for you or you for them.

If you are feeling vulnerable and very keen to find help and a solution to your pain, be observant of professionals who seek to label or categorise you without hearing you full story. Remember that your full story may not be revealed for a number of sessions.

Therapy is a service. You might access this service in the same way as you access a solicitor who might defend you, garage services that maintain the vehicle your family drive in or builders who work on one of your precious assets.

Whatever intervention I offer in my work this week in Bournemouth, Poole or Dorset as a couple counsellor or as a counsellor for teenagers and adolescents or as a family therapist, be it, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Mindfulness, Psychodrama, Person Centered Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Solution Focused Therapy, Integrative Therapy or Family Therapy, I have respect and empathy for anyone who is prepared to share their story with me.