Counselling services for addictions.
Counselling services for addictions. Having a family member who has an addiction is tough. We find ourselves becoming intolerant and angry sometimes and at other times we become afraid and accommodating. I provide specialist counselling services for addictions in Bournemouth and Poole. If you would like to know a little more about some of the problems I see families facing around this most difficult of issues then please this part of my blog.
Whilst it’s fully understandable that we do all we can to help a loved one to prevent them doing harm to themselves, in the long run, they have to come to their own decision about what is best for them. This is hard because decision making is best carried out with a sound mind and reasoning capacity. Without doubt an addiction will undermine a person’s self-protective and creative thought processes. Creating “just the right” environment to enable someone to make some positive changes can be time consuming and heart breaking and the failure of attempts to help can build more resentments and animosity, which, however hard we try will be picked up by everyone in the process and Guilt and Helplessness are usually the way we all end up feeling.
There is no doubt in my mind that any kind of addiction is a mental health problem and people who suffer with it are deserving of all our support and love. Sometimes the best way to show that support and love is to show that life can carry on as normal. This is for two reasons. Firstly, chaos cannot overrule sanity and order and, secondly, it is a hard responsibility to bear for the person with the addiction to know that they are not only making themselves sick but that they are also making the lives of their loved ones hard as too. Addictions may take away our capacity to function safely but they cannot destroy our capacity to feel love and be loved.
In most towns and cities in the UK there are a huge amount of community based recovery initiatives and counselling services for addictions. You will get a good sense of where your struggling loved one is at with their difficulties by the way they take control of looking for solutions to their problems.
Clearly, just because a person does not wish to engage with such services does not mean they are happy and content to stay sick. A good start, however, might be for you to wisely and respectfully ensure that your unhappy loved one knows where help is and knows in what form the help will take.
If you would like to find out how I can help you or someone you love who has an addiction then please email me or call me, I would be pleased to hear from you.