I am a counsellor working in Bournemouth and Poole. I offer specialist guidance and support to parents who are struggling with their child’s behaviour. While this post concerns the young people I support in central London, it could quite easily be about people you know. You may be looking for Counselling for teenagers in Bournemouth and Poole and you may feel that this post is not relevant to you but please read on, this posts concerns everyone who lives in The UK today.
I have written these statements below as they were said to me, they were spoken by black members of staff. They speak about what it is like for a young black person to grow up in the UK today. They were hard to hear and speak for themselves.
You have a dead beat dad who seldom inputs, you live in a ghetto, you are poor, cunning, like committing crime and are lazy
If you are a young man you will have no discourse with your emotions, the only one you will feel comfortable to convey is anger
The Ultra-male persona is dominant and exploitative, has a muscular body type, shows no emotions except controlled anger, with implied skilful fighting prowess, and distain
The Ultra-female persona is submissive, sexually active from a young age, has a certain body type and has an expectation of being dominated
The established white media, interested only in making money, reinforces the stereotypes and artists who conform most effectively win awards, given platforms (Youtube, MTV), make money and become role models
-The concept now exists, “I want to be him for what he has, not because of what he is
-At Eton you are raised to lead, at inner city London state schools you are raised to conform to this stereotype
-One member of staff said, “I drummed it into my kids when they were in the womb that this society is not equal and you have to fight harder than the white English to succeed
-Advertising is for the white middle classes and if there is a black face in advertising it’s to make the middle classes feel like the advertisers are politically conscious
-We have to tell our young people that no matter what grade you leave with you are able bodied and your mind works fine and when it’s you time you must be ready to know how to use it
-Being black I have felt a little “squeezed” in this school
-You won’t understand what young people are saying unless you help them say it
-We have to start to peel the onion, start crying and get in touch with our emotions
-Black or mixed race students will only speak of these matters with adult/staff they trust
-We have to teach our children to break that ceiling, we have to teach them to throw that rock as hard as they can
If you are searching for Counselling for teenagers in Bournemouth and Poole, then maybe you might consider contacting me, we can talk about counselling and the other therapeutic options you have available to you. The statement above says it all, “You won’t understand what young people are saying unless you help them say it”.
From the New Forest to Bournemouth and Poole I have enabled young people, couples and families and individuals to understand what is happening for them and together we have created a better life.
When I work this week in Bournemouth, Poole or Dorset as a counsellor, couple counsellor, teenage and adolescent counsellor, family counsellor and family therapist, offering Family counselling and marriage guidance, marriage counselling, teenage counselling and adolescent counselling to individuals and couples with differing forms of anxiety and depression feeling anxious and depressed, I may use CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), Attachment Theory, Mindfulness, Psychodrama, Person Centred Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Psychoanalysis, Solution Focused Therapy, Integrative Therapy or Family Therapy or Attachment Theory…I am mindful to that counselling offers us new opportunities and possibilities for us to develop our knowledge, commitment and understanding of ourselves and each other.